Should You Stay or Go? You're Only 9 Steps Away From Unlocking TOTAL CLARITY in Just Days — Not Years
Time to Grow or Time to Go is for anyone in relationship limbo who wants to find the right answer for them — without spending any more time overthinking, having the same conversation in therapy, reading another book on love, or trying to DIY their way through the situation.
No more wasting time wondering.
This revolutionary relationship clarity course guides you through a proven process to finally figure out if you need to stay and grow or if it's time to go.
"The results and positive impact from our work together has rippled into every area of my life... my relationship with myself and everyone in my life, my marriage, the way I show up as a mother, who I am as a leader and entrepreneur, my health and vitality and the tangible results and wins within my business and life's work. I will jump at any opportunity I get to work with Chrissy." - Dani K.
I'm guessing that if you're here
this sounds all too familiar...
You're dissatisfied in your relationship and don't know fully why or what to do
You’re trying to work on issues but don’t feel like there's any real progress
You're wondering if fear is keeping you with your partner or pushing you away from them
You're terrified of making the “wrong” decision either way and later regretting it
You're worried about wasting huge chapters of your life with the wrong person
You're having a hard time believing you can find a better love than what you have now
You’re so drained from questioning what to do that you don't trust yourself anymore and feel numb or close to giving up hope
...and I bet you're so done being stuck in this cycle.
I was there once too.
Did you know most people spend at least 3-7 years in limbo before deciding if they should stay in a relationship or go?
This means most people don't have the roadmap and support they need to make sense of what they feel and act on it. But if deciding to stay or go in your relationship was that easy, you’d have figured it out by now, right? You're probably like me and tried everything to find clarity:
The Hamster Wheel
When you get caught in endless overthinking—reconsidering your relationship from every angle—hoping clarity will just click one day.
Phoning-a-Friend
When you ask friends, family, or experts for their advice, hoping they’ll say something that finally makes the decision clear for you.
The Self-Help Spiral
When you place the pressure on yourself to "fix" what's wrong and believe you need to change or 'heal' before things can improve.
The Balance-Scale
When you believe that if you just analyze the relationship enough, you’ll land on a rational, logical conclusion about whether to stay or go.
Expert-Shopping
When you seek out expert opinions (books, podcasts, social media), thinking that if you just consume all the info, the right decision will reveal itself.
The Avoidance Loop
When you wait and see if things will get better or change on their own, postponing any action in the hopes it’ll somehow go away.
These classic strategies to find clarity seem like they should help, but are the exact traps keeping you clouded with confusion and stuck in indecision. It's totally backwards, but it's not your fault.
The Truth?
All of these strategies make you look outside of you for the answer first when that is (and always will be) a dead end.
Time to Grow or Time to Go helps you find the clarity you need about what to do in the one and only place the answer actually exists: inside of you.
The Time to Grow or Go Difference
This is not your average "course."
Other relationship resources teach you how to fix the relationship dynamic itself—through strategies like conflict resolution or communication strategies—but yet again, that is still placing the focus OUTSIDE of yourself for answers first, when beneath those issues is the real source of the problem: your connection to yourself, and as a result, your truth.
So unlike any other course out there, this experience is designed as a personal hero’s journey.
From the moment you enter the course portal, you’re the main character of your story, embarking on a journey you must take to find the clarity you need to no longer settle in love. Like any journey, you'll need 3 things in order to make it to the other side:
Proven Roadmap
Say goodbye to decision fatigue and spinning in circles. You'll get a step-by-step proven roadmap so you can simply follow the steps and trust the process to find what you've been looking for.
Essential Toolkit
If thinking alone were enough to find clarity, you would've found it by now. You'll learn evidence-based practices and how to use them to unlock your clarity from within your mind and body.
Trusted Mentor
Generalized relationship advice can only get you so far. You'll have a qualified guide, Chrissy, who has also walked in your shoes to help you bypass the pitfalls and blindspots that'll keep you stuck.
So what does this journey look like?
The whole program breaks down into
THREE PHASES
that mirror the classic hero's journey
Phase 1: The Wake-Up Call
In this phase, you'll both assess where you've been and prepare for what's ahead. You'll learn what’s kept you stuck so far and equip yourself with the perspective and tools to get clarity this time around.
Module 1: Review Your Relationship
Assess your familiar world to establish baseline of where you are in your relationship dynamic
Learn which traps that have kept you stuck and how to avoid them moving forward
Reflect on why things need to change and what vision you have for the end of this road
Module 2: Set Your Support System
Meet your mentor, Chrissy, and learn her full story of how she walked this path successfully
Get access to and set up your levels of support through this process – this journey is self-paced, but has many ways to feel like you’re not alone in this
Receive top tips, resources, & tools to navigate the journey successfully, such as "The Code of Alignment" that will collect all the insights you gain on your journey and be your true north to keep you from slipping back into old stories keeping you stuck
Module 3: End Relationship Limbo
Understand the cost of relationship limbo and confront why you've refused the call in the past
Learn how to face the unknown and conquer fear as you go so you don’t self-sabotage
Make pledge to commit 100% to this experience and cross the threshold to start the journey within
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY:
You’ll face the reality of your relationship in your Ordinary World, address what’s made you Refuse the Call in the past so it doesn’t happen again, Meet the Mentor to get the tools and inspiration you need to fully accept the Call to Adventure to change what’s not working, and Cross the Threshold with 100% commitment to explore your world within to find your answer.
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY: You’ll face the reality of your relationship in your Familiar World, address what’s made you Refuse the Call in the past so it doesn’t happen again, Meet the Mentor to get the tools and inspiration you need to fully accept the Call to Adventure to change what’s not working, and Cross the Threshold with 100% commitment to explore your world within to find your answer.
Phase 2: The Clarity Quest
In this phase, you'll find the clarity you've been looking for. But first, you'll face what’s been masking your clarity within and outside of yourself – specifically on a mental, soul, emotional, and physiological level.
Module 4: Rewrite Your Relationship Coding
Go through the step-by-step process to face the tests, enemies, and allies that will reveal your inner clarity.
Rewrite relationship coding in your MINDSET: Explore what you learned to believe about relationships in general and your current relationship through your upbringing and societal/cultural conditioning. Discover what core beliefs and perspectives are driven by fear vs. authenticity.
Rewrite relationship coding in your IDENTITY: Explore what kind of relationship actually fits who you are as a person. Discover what core values and self-expression is driven by fear vs. authenticity.
Rewrite relationship coding in your EMOTIONS: Explore your emotional processing patterns that shape how you communicate and connect in relationships. Discover what recurring emotional states are driven by fear vs. authenticity.
Rewrite relationship coding in your NERVOUS SYSTEM: Explore your survival instincts that are the deepest, biggest blocks to getting true clarity. You’ll face what I call your core four “fear foes” that have been trying to protect you but also masking you from your truth. This section alone is mind-blowing, but you’ll need the mindset, identity, and emotions sections sorted to get the most from this section. There’s a method to this madness!
Module 5: Connect Your Dots
Collect and connect your dots around all the insights you’ve gathered in your quest
Learn my go-to process to take everything you’ve learned and intentionally line it up with the evidence of what’s been wrong in your relationship
Discover what’s signaling where you need to grow versus if it’s time to go
Module 6: Unlock Total Clarity
Face the ordeal and conquer the #1 challenge that’s keep you from growing or going
Experience the reward of total clarity unlocked in this final step
Learn what to do if clarity hasn’t struck yet – don’t worry, it always will!
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY:
You’ll go through a series of Trials, defeat the inner Enemies blocking your clarity, & gain Allies that’ll move you forward. You’ll gain profound understanding of yourself and your relationship dynamic, which prepares you to face The Ordeal which is the biggest obstacle standing in your way of clarity. This process will unlock The Revelation of your true clarity without external factors clouding your vision.
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY: You’ll go through a series of Trials, defeat the inner Enemies blocking your clarity, & gain Allies that’ll move you forward. You’ll gain profound understanding of yourself and your relationship dynamic, which prepares you to face The Ordeal which is the biggest obstacle standing in your way of clarity. This process will unlock The Revelation of your true clarity without external factors clouding your vision.
Phase 3: The Reality Reset
In this phase, you'll take your newfound clarity and get the resources and guidance you need to take the next courageous steps to grow or go in your relationship.
Module 7: Prepare to Grow or Go
Prepare for the road back to your reality and make aligned changes with this newfound clarity
For those who want to grow, you’ll receive a step-by-step process to prepare yourself to do so
For those who want to go, you’ll receive a step-by-step process to prepare yourself to do so
Module 8: Reset Your Relationship
In your own timing, take the courageous step to embody the resurrection of the real you that you’ve uncovered
Receive guidance to enact steps to restore or end your relationship with integrity
Gain tools to maintain a sense of inner safety as you make the changes necessary to honor your truth, without slipping back
Module 9: Start Your Next Chapter
Honor the journey you just successfully completed and all that was gained in the process
Return with the reward in all areas of your life as you learn to show up in alignment with the true you
Reflect on the transformation that took place from start of the journey
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY:
You’ll follow The Road Back gathering the resources you need to stay or go, undergo The Resurrection to let go of what was and claim your choice with conviction, Return with the Reward by applying what you’ve learned to your life and relationship to reset your reality with the inner enlightenment you’ve found, and ultimately bask in the Freedom to Live in alignment once-and-for-all.
JUST LIKE A HERO'S JOURNEY: You’ll follow The Road Back gathering the resources you need to stay or go, undergo The Resurrection to let go of what was and claim your choice with conviction, Return with the Reward by applying what you’ve learned to your life and relationship to reset your reality with the inner enlightenment you’ve found, and ultimately bask in the Freedom to Live your life in alignment once-and-for-all.
Why wait any longer when you can get the proven path to know:
❤️🩹 Exactly what you need to work on (and why) if you should stay or...
⛔️ Exactly what won’t work anymore (and why) if it’s time to go
What's Included in
Time to Grow or Time to Go
Limited Time Founding Member Perks!
Bi-Weekly Q+A Clarity Calls: For 6 months, you get 90-minute group calls with Chrissy bi-weekly to receive personalized guidance and connect deeper with a community of people who get it
Success Story Portal: You get access to an ever-growing library of advice & wisdom including in-depth interviews from people who’ve been in your shoes and are thriving in all different outcomes
Lifetime Access to Course & Community: You get access the growing course content and community space for as long as it exists instead of 12 months only, allowing you to go at your own pace and revisit it whenever you need!
These free bonuses alone make clarity a done deal.
Meet Your Guide
Chrissy Papetti
Four years ago, instead of celebrating love on my wedding anniversary, I was grieving it. After second-guessing myself to death and spiraling with confusion for years, I finally found the certainty to make the gut-wrenching decision to end my marriage to my partner-in-crime of seven years.
I had no guarantees. No clear path forward. Following my heart, I moved from NJ to CA and restarted my life. In no world did I imagine I’d be here today with new level of love and life beyond what I could even conceptualize for myself then.
But what was even more surprising than where I landed...?
💌 One by one, messages from friends, clients, and strangers began to pour in asking me for help. They felt totally stuck trying to make sense of their mixed feelings with their relationship.
I realized the hard-won wisdom I earned to find clarity around my relationship was not just hard for me but hard for...everyone. I noticed that the tools I pieced together to finally crack the code to clarity were nowhere to be found AND needed by others.
Just like me, I saw that most people rationalize what they feel as "growing pains" of a relationship, settle for less than they deserve, and let suppressed emotions eat away at them until they hit rock bottom when they’re forced to make a change... but it doesn't have to (and shouldn't) be this way.
This is what inspired me to create the most affordable, supportive, and comprehensive online course for finding total clarity to stay or go in your relationship, no matter what age or what stage you're at in your life.
I created the journey I wish I had when I was distraught about this with nowhere to turn. All I wanted was to leave no stone unturned so I could make a confident choice that was best for my partner and me. That's what Time to Grow or Time to Go is for.
Over the last decade, I've taught and coached thousands of people to finally get what they want in life by retraining their mind-body connection to thrive, not just survive. People are blown away at how quickly the clarity strikes when they follow a proven step-by-step process with the right support.
I hope you're as eager as I am for you to finally begin this journey.
Officially: Chrissy Papetti is a certified self-mastery coach, licensed occupational therapist, and educator. After going through some of life's most challenging experiences – from self-healing a decade of chronic pain to going through a divorce – Chrissy has learned what it takes to leverage these experiences to live life even more fully in alignment. She loves connecting the dots between scientific research and philosophical theories about human potential, then translating these ideas into practical methods for self-transformation. Chrissy has been named a Top 10 Mindset Coach in 2020 and you can find her work featured in 30+ leading podcasts and publications.
This course is for you if...
You want total certainty about what's best for you and your relationship, knowing you left no stones unturned
You're done wasting any more precious time or energy trying the same things that keep you stuck in limbo
You want to live life in integrity and with authenticity, unwilling to settle for less than you want or deserve
Who's the perfect fit for this?
You're in any type of committed relationship, married or not
You're dissatisfied in your relationship and don't know fully why or what to do
You’re trying to work on issues but don’t feel like you're making real progress
You wonder if fear is keeping you with your partner or pushing you away from them
You’ve been questioning whether or not to leave your relationship for so long that you don't trust yourself anymore
You worry about being judged or misunderstood so you've been quietly battling this on your own
You have a hard time believing that you can find a better love than what you have now
You're terrified of making the “wrong” decision and later regretting it
You're considering divorce but are struggling with the decision
You know you need to leave but you just can’t seem to do it
This course isn't for you if...
You’re experiencing physical abuse - please contact a local DV shelter to get help immediately
You're looking for a course to help you work directly on your relationship instead of exploring your inner world first
You'd rather stay in the familiar discomfort of your situation than the discomfort of finally facing what's deeper beneath the surface
You want a quick fix and are unwilling to commit several hours per week to this experience for yourself
You don't see yourself as the main character in your life story, worthy of having the kind of love you want and deserve
Hear from clients who found clarity with Chrissy
Still Have Some Questions?
I've got answers!
When does the course experience start?
The course enrollment is paused at this time. For more information or questions about working with Chrissy, please send an email to [email protected].
How does the course experience work?
LEARN: Watch the course video content to follow the step-by-step process in your own timing. Watch or listen to the "Success Story" interviews to be inspired by others who've been in your shoes and have found a path to thrive in love if they stayed or left their relationship.
INTEGRATE: Complete the recommended exercises or practices associated with the videos to deepen your learning and apply teachings to your life. Follow my guidance to use the "Mind-Body Toolkit" to use tools that help you unlock clarity at levels deeper than thinking.
CONNECT & SHARE: Engage in the community space via posts, comments, and "likes" so you can share in the journey with others. Rather than one long continuous feed where posts get lost, there are several different channels in the community so you can go to specific areas to give or receive support, celebrate your breakthroughs, and get your questions answered as you go.
GET DEEPER SUPPORT: As a "Founding Member," you'll get access to 6 months of Q+A Clarity Calls with Chrissy where you can get personalized guidance on your unique situation and receive answers to questions that come up on the journey. You'll connect deeper with other community members so you'll feel less alone. Other members who've joined already say they never want to get off the calls - they're that special!
How long can I access the course & community for?
As a "Founding Member" you get the included perk of lifetime access to the course and community! This means you can stay in the online space for as long as it exists and for a minimum of 12 months if the experience ever closes one day in the future. If this course closes, you'll get plenty of notice to plan to use the materials before access closes.
You never know when you may need this guided process and safe, non-judgmental community to turn to once you've made a decision to stay or go and beyond. This will be the gift to yourself that keeps on giving as you navigate the inevitable ups and downs of committed relationships.
What if I can't attend the Q+A Clarity Calls live?
You'll get the schedule for the calls right away so you can adjust your schedule as needed to make sure you prioritize this much deserved time for yourself to be seen and supported. If for any reason you can't make it, you can submit your question in advance via a form in the community and I'll make sure to answer it on the call for you! All Q+A calls are recorded and uploaded to the private community space to rewatch.
How do I know this program will work for my situation?
No matter what your circumstances, these are the universal steps that MUST be done to get to true clarity. You can consider the specific factors as part of your decision making process once you get the clarity, but getting caught up in the details too soon typically stops you from being fully honest with yourself upfront about what’s right for you.
What if I'm not ready to decide to stay or go?
Don't worry, because this isn’t a course pushing you to make a decision before you're ready. It's designed to help you gain the total certainty of what your decision will be if you’re acting in full honesty with your truth. You can act on that certainty whenever and however you feel ready to, given your own circumstances, but at least you won’t have to gaslight or second-guess yourself anymore. Remember, you'll likely feel more ready to decide when you have the info and tools in this course to support you.
How can I figure all of this out in just a few weeks?
A matter of weeks is the promise of how quickly one can move through this experience with devoted focus and self-inquiry. This fastest track assumes that you’re at a certain level of self-awareness already, like I was, and just need to properly focus that awareness to make sense of your internal world and easily unlock your answer. The clarity will spark exactly when its meant to, as you're ready, so don't place pressure on the precise timeline. You're under enough pressure, there's no need for more! Trust the process.
How will this be different from what I've done in therapy?
Therapy is focused on helping you understand your past and healing traumas so you can manage the present. Therapists address clinical concerns (ex: anxiety, depression) and is a treatment process to heal. Coaching is focused on helping you gain the self-awareness and empowerment skills to take action toward your ideal future.
Coaches address non-clinical symptoms (ex: stress, burnout) to help you maximize your potential and achieve the desired results you want in life. This experience is going to give you the education, community support, and guided process to create congruence between your inner self and outer life so you can step forward toward the relationship reality you desire instead of dwelling in the shadows of what's happened in the past.
Often therapy and coaching both serve different but important purposes in this decision to stay or go. Many people I've worked with have said that this process has helped them get further faster than they were able to in therapy (see client testimonials above on this page!)
I don't want my partner to know I'm enrolled, what should I do?
Within the beginning of the course, I guide you through setting up your optimal support environments and systems so that you can get the most out of this experience and have necessary privacy. You deserve to prioritize this time for yourself to find true clarity and don't have to feel guilty or shameful for wanting to find your own answers without having your inquiry process intertwined with your partner's.
The course material is accessible to watch or listen to on web/desktop or mobile so you can take it on-the-go out of the house with you.
If I know I need to leave, is this the right fit for me?
Absolutely. This experience will give you a deeper understanding of what changed in your relationship dynamic and the specific patterns that led you to this ultimate decision. You'll walk away feel even more confident about your decision and will prevent yourself from repeating the same patterns in future relationships with this higher level of self-awareness.
How will you ensure my privacy?
It is essential for you to feel safe to embark on this journey, so your confidentiality is prioritized every step of the way. The private online course and community space requires your unique email and login credentials to access. You can adjust your profile details to use your first name and last initial if it makes you feel more comfortable to maintain some anonymity. You can connect with others in the community in your own timing via posts and comments. Trust that as you see others courageously share their story and lean on others for support, you'll find the value in doing the same.
On the fence?
Book a free call with Chrissy.
If you're feeling torn about deciding to join this course experience, don't worry, I get it. You might feel afraid of what you'll find, guilty about exploring this without your partner knowing, or even shocked to fully admit you've reached this point in your relationship.
But if you're here, I know you don't want the chance to find real clarity to pass you by either. This free 15-minute call is a zero-pressure zone for you to ask any lingering questions you have, talk through making this decision, and figure out if this course really is right for you.
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